Love your story

It is always a glorious wonder when the intention that you have set develops and firms and turns into part of your story.  

You really do need to look back to see your story and how it unfolded, appreciate how far you have come. Give it the recognition and the confirmation that what you mapped out and the intentions that you set have come together.

You remember that day, so well when you set your target and believed that the intended actions you designed will lead you to what you desire.
You believed them to be true when you set your target but wait you do go through some tough times and here you are on the other side of tough , so sweet, when you have faced the fear and the challenges and are able to pull out the belief skills and strategies to come out and go, yeah I did okay!

So, when it is right in front of you, you are living with what you desired, it is great time for a celebration jig.....and away you go again, ready to set more and keep on strengthening what is possible.

How did I get here? Well, here is what I have in my basic life aids kit for strengthening what is possible.

1. Stock up on love habits

Some of our habits we just have and don't know where they came from but without much effort they have become a part of our everyday unconscious living.  Pull apart your day and fit in some habits that will make a difference for the better.  Start small but remain consistent until it is just the way it is for you.

Lean on gratitude as it is the attitude that creates a love habit and settles into being a part of your core.

2. Self love and personal strengths

Talk to yourself with love affirmations.  Be very aware when criticism and comparing come to your mind, as this is your cue to repeat your special love affirmations. Breathe them in and let the words settle in the cells of your body.  Be prepared by writing your very long list of your strengths, quirks and abilities, know them, add to them.

I am a perfect imperfect human. My fears work as a safety warning and when I connect to what I fear, I can soothe the area that needs my attention.  It does not have a hold on who I am or what I do. I am not happy all the time but I am resilient.  We all have many parts that make us complete....the light and dark, anger and love, sad and content and so much more.

Know yourself and allow self love to strengthen your resolve to remain focused on solutions.

3. Expand your understanding

Intellectual, emotional and spiritual growth is the essence of every desire you create. I would not be who I am without the great authors and teachers who have shown me better ways. The encouragers, the enablers, the patient, kind people who are devoted to bringing information and knowledge to life for me.  When I look back over even the last 5 years it is the books I have read, the people I meet, the places I visited that have expanded my understanding and challenged my assumptions and helped me create my intentions and path to goals.

Learning is a basic life tool that is to be encouraged and nurtured.  Don't take it for granted.

Are Vision Boards Useful?

If I cut out pictures that I am attracted to and then paste them on a board, do all those things then come into my life?  Can creating a Vision Board be that simple, or is there more to it?  Is the true purpose of a Vision Board just stories and wishes and hype?  Is it just an afternoon of craft for the bored?Vision Boards looked like a lot of fun but do they really really work?
 If they work, and yes I have a healthy scepticism here, I want to know why it works and is it right for me.  

Some of my questions were answered when I moved house recently and cleared out the clutter and  I found two old scrapbooks where I had cut and paste many pictures of things I liked and would love to have in my life.  They have been at the back of a cupboard so it was a lot of laughs to see what I chose about 10 years ago.
This is the strange part and it really made me sit up and pay attention. ..perhaps Vision Boards do work.  Most of the images I chose I now have in my life, not as the exact image but a very close replica, the places I wanted to see, I have been to, the type of house I wanted, I am now living in.
If that is how Vision Boards work it is amazing, yet a little hit & miss and if left as pictures on paper it can just end up as a forgotten wish list.  No harm in having an hour or two of fun doing craft. 

Yet,  if some came to happen then there has to be more to creating and sustaining a Vision Board.
It is totally accepted now through scientific testing and personal knowing that our thoughts become things and what we focus on we will attract into our lives.  
T​​he action of visualisation is now common practice, you may already do it, we certainly know it is a practice widely used by athletes to enhance their training and "seeing" how their actions lead to their goals.

 It is not a crutch to rest upon and go, well that is done I visualised how it will happen and it is so....visualisation is an inspiration tool to adjust your thoughts and focus your attention and belief.  You don't just do it once either, your daily practise is visualising what you want to see, how you want to act until it is so.

The act of visualisation helps you focus on what you value and what you want to see in your life.  

We are comfortable knowing that visualisation works and can put us in a place of confidence to step out and make it happen.  
We are in control of our own thoughts and when you have created your very own unique Vision Board, it is you who determines whether this is fantasy and pretty pictures collected as a wish list or there is conviction that you have put out there what you value in your life.  
The Vision Board with all the images you feel you want in your life is a tangible tool to aid your visualisation.  
When you look at the images you have collected do they make you feel excited, certain and inspired to action?   When left just as a pretty picture you may be disappointed with the result.  Visions Boards are a great kickstart, you still  prepare your goals, you still are open to learning and ready for challenges and changes.  You are still in control of your destiny.
An athlete just doesn't visualise, they still do the workouts, still compete and keep setting the goals to achieve their best.                      
  "...Action with vision is making a positive difference" Joel Barke
The reason you have a Vision Board is to help you formulate what you value most, it is a time for you to collate and organise how you see your life and to remind you of the conviction you have to make it happen.  

To get the most from a Vision Board ...start with intention, focus on your  purpose, see it as part of your preparation and use a process to create your Vision Board.  So there is more to it than simple cut and paste and when I stick to a process I know that as an inspiration tool they work.  
Vision Boards are useful and now  I LOVE Vision Boards.

When I hold on tight I lose my grip

We know that it is your intentions that will plunge you into creating your next big step and lead you to your vision, the goals and the planning to unlock your best future.

It is also where you can come unstuck and rather than focus on the intention we try to correct our motivation or how we set up our goals or any number of reasons except at the source.

Your intention comes from a place of knowing it is already here.  You are so sure it is so, there is no gap in your knowing for limiting beliefs or dwell on worry and fear to take you away from what you expect to be.

How do you get there?  

How do you create your intention with knowing 
it is already there before you have even started?

When I hold on tight
I lose my grip

When I wish for better
I see only what I lack

When I worry about what I am attracting
I miss the obvious

When I look to others to tell me my future
I forget who I am

Wishful thinking is child's play
I am blinded to see things as they truly are


When I step up and accept what is now
I am free

When I listen inside
I know the power that a thought can hold

When I create my intention with knowing it is already here
I understand seeing is believing and believing is seeing

That is when I am totally entwined with the reality of my intentions.
Certainty fuels my confidence.

It is the tough questions that will help you to reveal your honest thoughts and feelings about your situation.  When you are ready to listen, your answers lead you to strengthen your soul and create your best intention for you now.  Because.... that is what it is all about... creating your best life and creating your life in a way that honours you and is kindly accepting of you.

Here goes...Top 5 Tough Questions 

1. Do you deserve this intention you have created?
2. You know there are strengths and weaknesses in your mind and life, but will you do it anyway?
3. Are you worthy?
4. Are you so excited about it, that you are shielded from another's opinion?
5. Do you have a rightful expectation that you are intuitively guided in your actions?

On any of the questions, did you have a "no", a "maybe",  a "not sure"? 
One more question then....Do you still want to continue?

If yes, then the intention you have created will gather momentum and draw you into knowing it is already there.

How do small actions help?

I once lived in a small boarding house, it was only for a short period of time and I remember every morning , very early every morning I would be woken by the cries and shrieks of the three small children next door.   Mum yelling back at the children and sounding totally exasperated by the morning routine and the struggle with forcing her children to get dressed, eat breakfast and off to school.  Every morning this would be their routine. Every day starting with chaos. It must have been so tiring for everyone. There was no change in how each day started I even came to accept and expect it.
 It wasn't until I had three small children of my own that I began to relate to how your morning can start with chaos.
It was not something I wanted to happen in my home, I want to start the day with ease and preparation for the day's activities.


there it is!

One small action - you know there is better and you want a piece of that.  One small decision that can make a big difference.

When you know what you want, the next small action you want is how you will make it happen.

No big grand plans or talking about doing it, just one small action for change to how you want it to be.

What would it be like to have your morning routine full of ease, calm and readiness?
The benefits of sanity, peace, respect, remembering the details and lowering the stress in your home.
One small action can do all this.

One small action feeds into your habits.
Look at the habits you have created over time that are disrupting your peace.
Add an action that will transform one habit in your morning.

Remember, one small action makes a big difference.

When you first wake, what are your first thoughts?  Can you take one small action to deliberately think of a blessing you have, what a wonderful day it is? Deliberately think a happy positive thought.
Every day your first thought is uplifting.  A small action that moves your thoughts from dread to anticipation.

When you greet your family in the morning, is it with a kiss, a hug, a kindness? One small action today to greet your family with a kiss, a good morning my darling.  You are master of your time, stretch it, even when you are running late, stretch it to include everyday the small action of a loving touch. This one small action can lift the mood and willingness to cooperate.

You will want to create more small actions to start your day with ease and joy. Sometimes you will trip over them in the race to join the race. Pick them up again and know that the gathering of your small actions will turn into habits that transform your life.

Grand gestures, big plans, massive changes do make a big splash, lots of noise and possible disruption for a time. It is possible for a dramatic change to make a difference, but I have found for 100% guaranteed that the change I want to see and make stick is doing the small actions, the simple adjustments to daily routine that create the continuing ripple effect and that this effect will impact your life and the lives you touch.

Smashing the Obstacles

With all the self help books and well meaning guides, and all those positive affirming statements you soak in every day, that you would think okay now it is going to get easier.  My life will follow the easy path of peace and strength.  Then along comes something that just tests all your resolve and resilience.  It kicks you hard and you are searching for strength.

How do you handle life when there is uncertainty and obstacles in your way?

Right now, this is where I am at....and it is totally shitty!

I trust I did all that I could do..Yes I followed my intuition....tick
yes, I did the planning, did the work...tick
yes, I soaked up the positive law of attraction mantras....tick

Yet, here I am...the obstacles keep coming and I am worn out.

There is a spark of light still flickering inside me.  Like an ember if I gently breathe more life into this spark I can smash these obstacles.  I want to fan that flame inside me.

I am using these tips to help me through this time, I hope it is also of use to you.

1. Soak up the energy that you get from the familiar. It is the everyday routine that keeps you sane.
Stress has a way of keeping you stuck and inert.  I find the routine of my day helps me focus on staying in the moment rather than that quick trip to a future that, and if you let it, your imagination can make it look very scary. It is one of the more difficult things to do, to stay in the moment, yet doing the shopping, making the bed, cleaning the floor...all these jobs you have to do are a blessing when feeling overwhelmed.

2. Do the things that you can control and what you can influence.  Less mind training and more action.  Trust your inner wisdom to do its thing and go on autopilot. Action opens up optimism, ideas and resilience.

3. I find a shower with the water washing over my head is a cleansing for the soul.  Perhaps a few tears are in the wash, as well.  That's ok.  Sometimes, a song will come to me and there I am in the shower singing out loud.  The shower is a great place to exercise all the emotions you are feeling.  Yes a great cathartic experience.

4. Write it all down. Spill out everything that is bothering you, what is happening, why it is happening, how you are feeling....spill it all out. Burn it.  If I keep it bottled in, the obstacles just keep running around in my mind like some vortex to bring me down.  This way, it is out of me, it now has physical form and I can get rid of it.

One day I may look back and know that this difficult time has passed, it is now just a story. Another story to be told that the Universe has my back.  Obstacles, challenges, mountains whatever you want to call them, they do exist and I choose to be a conqueror.  The act of writing this has lifted my spirits and my thinking.  I can affirm All is Well.

Looking Back for Healing

I have the privilege of sitting back with time to reflect, my life has slowed down and an opportunity, no necessity to use this space to reflect on the year that is nearly over.   It is not a space you want to spend a lot of time, just enough to look for the highs, the lows, the learnings, the times I can say thank you again and oh, the times when I want to make sure I won't do that again!

Social Media posts give you the reminders of what went on.  I am not after the events but its more about what went on inside me, what really caught my attention and made a difference to who I am.

So, here are the 5 questions for what happened in 2017 and my answers will aid my continual healing and growth.

No 1. What in the year past really touched my heart, what stood out to me that made a difference?

When you have children, one of the greatest aspirations is that they are safe, happy, in love and so much more abundance in their lives.  I know this to be true for mine.  I could say that for every year, but this year it just held more significance for me.  There is pain in those thoughts too, because there is a separation adjustment to be made and like any parent you want them to be independent, yet you want to be their most significant person just like it used to be.  There is a little self-pity in those thoughts, my heart was touched by what is now past. Once I let that go, I am open to create new, perhaps a lot new in 2018.

No. 2. What gave me joy?

Ok, this is a tough one because it is never just one thing, one moment.  I noticed that when I choose joy as my action, then my reactions to whatever happens are cocooned in joy.  2017 was a roller coaster ride, so I just put my hands in the air and ride the ups, the down, the twists and turns.  I picked up on those times when my mind would cloud with doubt and anxiety and shifted the thoughts.  Yes, I took out the "mind garbage" a lot more often!  I am a lot quicker at it now, don't leave it lying around to seriously infect my thoughts.  I know I can fit even more joy in now.

3. What fed my soul?

Taking risks, new places, new people all those new and exciting times that tested my inner strength, beliefs and identity. When pushed I looked for the right book to read, a great course, teachers, inspiration, travel.   Not only the new but I know my soul is fed with the routine of yoga, meditation, tapping, trance, tea in the morning with my gorgeous guy.  There is power in the simple rich routine.

4. What were the challenges and what did I do?

The last half of 2017 was uncomfortable and challenging. Times of grief, worry and anxiety were heavy to carry.  There were times when my focus was more on survival and as I look back on it, I was digging deeper about my limiting beliefs.  What a stretch!   I do feel stronger because though it was tough, I know I live what I believe and I believe I am confident to handle any situation.  I call it weight training for the spirit.

5. How did I make a difference?

I listened more closely to my gut feeling, my inner voice...intuition. When I listened, I would go into action.  It was the daily actions of calling someone, letting them know how great they are, sending appreciation, trusting my decisions, helping a stranger, helping a friend.  Everyday asking for the opportunity to make a difference.  I like that I did this.  I like who I am when I do this.

When you look back over the year that was, look at it as a healing experience and take what is precious to you into 2018.

My wish for you is to Create... Inspire...Expand your life in 2018.

Acts That Shift to Solution Focused

What happens when you are not looking for solutions?... it generally goes like this...your attention is on what is going wrong, all you can see and feel is the chaos you are in and the belief there is no way out.

You feel the anxiety rising, the body reacts and stiffens.
You feel stuck and you are stuck.
The negative chatter fills your head.
Your attention is glued to the problem and your world contracts.
We all have moments like this, the problems get bigger when you invite it to take up residence in your life.  The solutions are there,  just hidden under that dirty pile of woe.

Remember that monster in the cupboard, when as a child you hid under the bedding, and as if by getting smaller you will make it go away.  You believed it to be so real as you watched and waited for the monster to jump out at you.

Just by the small action of flicking the light switch on you can relax, you have found a solution for now, ready to deal with the monster and prove it is not real, it does not have a hold over you.

The one small spark of even the promise of a solution encourages you to lift your eyes and understand you are in charge.   Your energy kindles and you are brave enough to let it go and believe all is ok.

You know as you grow from a child to an adult that there is no monster and the cupboard is empty, yet even though we are all grown up, other monsters can take its place and we can continue to act out those same feelings and beliefs and our perception is that those monsters do exist and those problems will keep holding you back.

You create the stories in your life and if you are not aware of what is happening, then the problems and challenges, the setbacks and situations, anxiety and worry, stress and separation can keep you bound up.

Flick the switch and choose.

Choose to focus on one act that will turn the light on in your life.

One act of determination.

It can start out as a dance with one step forward one to the side even a step back, but there is motion and the movement is getting you closer to see more solutions, show more bravery and confidence.  Determination wins and you know you are and always will be safe. Show your determination by recognising that it is your perception of the situation and your perception can change it for the better.

One act of kindness.

Kindness to yourself and to another and when repeated daily lifts your thinking and stokes the small flame of your belief.

It can surprise you how your own world can change with these acts of kindness and how your view of the world can brighten.  You begin to trust that there is always a solution.  There is always your creative ability to trust that the needed skill, the needed ability, the needed person will be there.  You are experiencing more of the synergy of hope.

One act of thinking,  "what if.."

Anything is possible... Use these words as your mantra, soak in the belief you will discover your best fit solution.  There is a shift in your thinking and you will shine a light on possibilities.

One act of asking for answers

Put on your persistence, keep it with you every moment.  Build your persistence strength through practice.  Trust when you ask, the answers will come to you. Be attentive, create the quiet moments in your life and listen with your hand on your heart to your intuition.  Your ego and the negative chatter will fade into the background. Breathe a sigh of relief.

One act of movement

Your exercise routine and creative niche are important to you to shift your current state.  Problems can be worked out while you occupy your body with cardio, weights, walking, running, yoga, sport, painting, writing...any type of activity that will get you moving, raising your energy and allow the stress to ease.

One act of being practical

It is all in the attitude. When you view the problem as a time of learning, an ally and the problem is really there to show you how to master your life.  Stick with the feeling you are and always will be solution focused. You have the resources and they are there for you when you ask.

It is an inside workout for the shift to solution focused.  

When you know there is no monster and you are re-writing your story and see that by "switching on your light" you are bringing life to your success structure.

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Your Master Plan

The year of 2017 is coming to an end and it is at this time, after all the celebrations anyway, that we think about looking for better. We are continually driven to achieve something more, to make the most of our life and design a future that brings us accomplishment and joy.  

Writing up your goals is our way to bring clarity and focus to our direction in life and the best way to see it all come together.  Your success will thrive when you know what your goals are and you are determined to follow through.

Pin this graphic where you can see it often and get ready to take the goal steps for your Master Plan.
When you have written your goals, put them where they are prompting you to action everyday.  The fridge, the mirror are always good spots.  In your diary or in your pantry may work for you.  Your phone reminder and recorder is another. 

Get that single minded focus that this is your master plan and it is through achieving these goals you are set for success.

Thank you

Two simple words connected together that can connect you to living better.

As a child you were instructed to always follow with what you receive with a thank you, as a parent you reinforce that with your children.  It is a universal social custom that is expected in society, but it is more than good manners that you are showing.

The thought behind these two words goes much deeper and the connection we have with the exchange of giving and receiving shows that thankfulness in our lives does create an aura of positive life nurturing attraction.

Say thank you for every gift you receive and for every time you can give, no matter how small, simple or insignificant you may think of it at the time.

Mornings are always a good place to start...first thoughts when you wake is to genuinely feel and express thank you for anything that comes to mind.

Maintain your thanks when, as the day goes on, you find yourself distracted with annoyances.  Come back and whisper thank you.

Use those pockets of time and catch when your mind wanders and say, oh yes, thank you.

When your head is not in the right space and you just can't see what to be thankful for, put your hand on your heart and say thank you.

Build, little by little those moments to tune into being thankful.

You are creating your own masterpiece and every brushstroke is layered upon those two words.

As your momentum grows and being thankful is your habit, you will experience times when you will walk as if you are kissing the earth with your feet.

How to view an obstacle

Right now I am living the result of my choices and right now I need to be reminded that those decisions are based on the vision to create a better life.

The vision that I mapped out, the goals that I planned are stalling and the obstacles that are in my way are making life difficult.  The cracks of doubt and scarcity widen as I focus more on what is not working out for me rather than what is working out.  My positive determination is leaking and replaced with anxiety, sleeplessness and fretting.

Most of my energy is taken with viewing the obstacles and setbacks and I can see this is fuelling doubt for my choices and to doubt myself.

How do you break away from what you perceive to be the reality and seeing these obstacles as massive walls that want to pull you back and to give in and give up?

This is my reminder on what I know:

The perception of a situation can be the turning point in how you create your best life.

Loss, grief, sickness, scarcity do happen.  They are part of our reality. We have been trained and educated into a mindset of scarcity, never enough time, money and opportunity.  Step back and remember it is the perception of our circumstances and how we choose to act on those perceptions that will either make you or break you. Scarcity is not my heritage anymore.  We have access to many great writers and teachers who are devoted to developing our understanding and to mine how we think and feel.  I choose to leverage from the uplifting words of others to direct my life.

When I come out the other end of the events and circumstances in my life that have carried the most obstacles, the most heartache I can see in the rearview that there is also an opportunity.   You could say I look for the silver lining or the rainbow after the storm.  I need to know that there is worth when there is challenge. I look for what I can learn and dig deep to find out what is this problem trying to elicit from me, what skill does it need.

Obstacles do show up and you have to choose:  run away, focus on it as some sort of doomsday sign, or view the obstacles as an ally, not an enemy.

What I am learning now is:

To not give in to the emotion of these obstacles, there is no attachment and no worry. Give more energy to my dream and my plan. It is up to me to place my emotion where it will best serve to cultivate a strong heart and mind. I factor in that there will be obstacles and I see these challenges as an ally to learn and know that when it all comes together it will be even sweeter for the lessons I have learnt.