May your wishes be fulfilled



As a child you breathed life into your wishes
A soft hush of the unknown yearning
You knew what you wanted
Your wishes showed you it is possible
Another time, another space and your wishes will be fulfilled
You let them go and continued to play
May your wishes be fulfilled.

Now you are all grown up
A million experiences have kept you alert
You are wary of disappointment
Separation says wishes belong to the stories of fairytales
Another time, another space, a door is closed
You let them go and continued to work.

There is a whisper
May your wishes be fulfilled.

You have stopped to listen
There it is again
A soft hush of the unknown yearning
The rush of knowing it is possible has returned
Another time, another space and you are home
Be encouraged your wishes never left you
You let them go and they stayed in your heart
May your wishes be fulfilled.




What is true for you?


What is true for you?  You might stumble over this one as it is not often , if ever, you would give your self the time to think about it. You might think this is silly, you know it, but when asked it is difficult to put the answer into words.

Put it another way...What do you believe in?
What is possible....what dreams and imaginings do you invite into your life?
What does the gatekeeper in your mind allow?
What is thrilling or scary?
What do you seek out?
Who do you attract to your life?
How do you see yourself?
How do you compare yourself to others?

I write and coach to serve others to design their best life.  This is done through setting the intention and crafting the goals.  To experience this happening in your life you would include the step to reflect where you are at with what you think, feel and believe is possible...your mindset...how you see the world and where you fit.

You are starting at the wrong place if you charge ahead with writing out your goals and plans without mining what is true for you.  For your best results include at the beginning and throughout the process of goal mapping and achievements.

What is true for you is so very important.  It is important to know what will pull you forward and what could hold you back.  What you are prepared to let go and what you are prepared to allow into your life.

These kind of "look into my soul"questions tend to be put to the side, hidden yet always disrupting or distracting you.  I have found that rushing to script the goals and running to make them happen can be a minefield if you have not truly thought through this step.

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Give yourself the time to know what you think is possible, what you believe about yourself and what is true for you.  Your perception on how things are meant to be for you is your gatekeeper to open up or close down your intention and goals.

Look at knowing your self better than anyone else is your strength and protector and fuels your intuition, your inner guidance.  Intuition practice will be your greatest asset for designing your best life.

Still having trouble with your answer to the question...What is true for you?

Habits are a good place to begin because they reveal a lot about us. When it comes to goals it will be your habits that will power you into action.  It is our habits that provide a mirror to reveal what we believe is true for us.

So, S.I.F.T. through your habits.

Select the habits you love and the habits you hate and why you do them and what is your argument for continuing to have them as your habits.  You are taking the autopilot off and finding out what is important for you.

And....
Identify and write down the top 10 aha learnings. Writing THE list is the beginning.  Once you are done, you don't need it anymore. You are at the stage where you are knowing yourself better and true for you is now at the front of your thinking.  You are moving through discovery.

And...
Find the small gems in your day that bring an instant smile. Those quick reactions to the smallest of moments reveal more to you and your truth.  Find the smallest of habits that you intentionally created and what is their worth to you.

And...
Test out what you have discovered about what is true for you in other situations.  Are you open to think and act differently depending on the situation?
You may have played games and quizzes that ask you want you would do in a scenario or you have watched a reality show and have expressed what you would do if that was you.  Observe your words and thoughts for information on your perception and reaction to out of ordinary situations.

Your journey of self-discovery is always moving, never linear and always expanding.  We will spend our lifetime on this journey of discovery, reflection and interpretation. Is that true for you?














Don't fake the positive

 

When all is going well positive comes easily.  You know the genuine feel of positive and the ecstasy and strength of will you have when all is going your way.  When there are problems that genuine feeling of positive just doesn't bubble up so easily.

There is a feeling of fuzziness and lethargy hanging around you that causes you to question what you want & if you are in the right place. You can't fake positive, there is no benefit to you to fake positive.

When you are in a dark place, you know it won't last but you are there and you may as well make the most of the situation.

How would I know the light, if there was no darkness?

Your completeness has come about through joy and suffering.
In every situation fall back on that knowing feeling of gratitude.

Gratitude is the attitude for every condition and circumstance. 

Stretch your emotions, claim the attitude and use the darkness to sharpen how much you know about yourself.  Setbacks and despondency are all part of the mix, along with expectation and resilience to widen the life you are living and constantly creating.

Embrace each strength and weakness, each perfect and imperfect quality.  Faking positive when inside you are crumbling will not improve the circumstances.  It will only delay your return.








Evolving Goals




Your goals are points of history in your life.

They are created by you, they grow and change by your design and will become your past.  

Goals are the milestones in your story.

Look at the goals you create as the stepping stones you have placed down and can easily be moved and altered.  You created them, you can change them.

View your goals as always evolving to suit your present situation with the force to change your future and be a part of your past. 

Do not take on board that your goals are fixed points and cannot be altered because when goals are fixed and do not turn out exactly how you wanted, then blame and guilt are used to explain why you did not serve the goal.
  
The striving creates its own glass ceiling and allows in the feeling of never good enough, a fertile ground for feeding stress, excessive striving and anxiety.  

Let go of the grip on fixed goals.  

A fixed goal creates this spin cycle, a stagnant fixed point in time that will never be the right fit for a person who is always learning, always evolving, always expecting better.

Every day your goals can morph and create a fluid momentum, the words will change but the original intention has expanded. Goals are a tool for working towards being better.  You are not backing away from your goals, see them as part of your life and so are expected to evolve.  

Goals are meant to laser your focus to step out your first action, then your second action, your third action... The actions you have determined are fluid and dynamic.

Use action verbs to see your goals as a dynamic force. It is your creation and it is you who will continue to breathe life into these actions.  

When your heart is determined your mind and body will follow.   

Ask questions of what, when, how and why these goals mean so much to you. 
Your questions are fresh, energised and focused for a new day, new week, new goal ...

                What would you like to have happen instead?  
                What is it like looking back to the way it used to be?
                With all your new insights what is it like in the future?
                What am I now so grateful for?
                Who is the person I am willing to become?
        
             
                 

Factor in the risk taking for your goals


“Would you tell me, please, which way I ought to go from here?"
"That depends a good deal on where you want to get to."
"I don't much care where –"
"Then it doesn't matter which way you go.” 



  But....what if, you want to be better, to do better, to have better?  What if you do care where you want to go?

You will be inviting risk into your life.

Venturing into something new will always bring with it a risk.   Whenever we step out to design the life we want, when we set the intention and fashion the goals there is always risk.  The goals you create are meant for your self development and risk taking provides the stretch for personal growth and self respect.

How you view and manage your risks will determine how far you go.

3 Tips to embrace the risk

  • Do your Research
  • Prepare and Expect
  • Ride the Resistance


 




Risk taking requires research. 

        Fill your brain with knowledge because knowledge is the precursor to experience. Experience fuels your confidence.  Confidence grabs risk by the throat.  








         Risk taking is for the courageous, the truth seeker, the bold. Be prepared by giving yourself the time each and every morning to fuel these traits in you.  Find the quiet spot and fill your mind and soul with positive mental repetition of who you are and what you achieve. 
You are prepared, capable and ready for the risks that are there to take you where you want to go.  Not any way will do for you, only the path you have created and the risks you have faced will ever be enough for you.

Expect something wonderful to happen in your life today.

       Risks bring resistance and use this resistance as your tail wind.
Expect it and critique it.
It will come both from without and within.
      This serves to sharpen your focus on the end result

Take it as a natural progression that you question your decisions. You have stood up and chosen the dance of life and you will check your step, your motives to remain true to your intention.   You are moving in your right direction.  Even the small steps are progress, remember you have momentum.



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What I Want Wants Me



Every morning I set aside at least 30 minutes for quiet thought and meditation, I have been doing this practise for so long now that my mind and body urges me to sit, focus on my breathe and be enveloped in quiet meditation.

I cherish this routine as it has provided a gateway into knowing myself better and to strengthen my focus on what is important to me.  The time out has helped me to limit the feelings of urgency, haste, confusion, doubt and build on the thoughts of safety, assuredness, direction.

So many benefits from doing this simple daily exercise and one benefit I want to touch on today is the friendship you develop with your inner wisdom.

Let's say you are ready to set up your goals, yet the patterns of procrastination and limiting beliefs in who you are and what you can do are a minefield to making your goals happen.  You think it is an easier path to invent excuses and apportion blame.  This small thinking is not the safe option, actually it is the more dangerous as you gradually separate more from your true identity and your inner calling.

What if you gave yourself ten minutes a day to not push or pull, to just sit and listen to your breathing?  So simple.

When you quieten your mind and close the door on the chatter, you enter into a friendship with your inner wisdom.  At first, it is awkward but when you persist, you become more acquainted, you trust yourself more and there is no space for rebukes, judgement and criticism.  The resistance is known yet not an excuse anymore.

Find your best time for 10 minutes, explore what other ways you can do to develop your friendship with your inner wisdom.  Soon finding the time is no longer an issue and you will expand your determination and focus for what is good for you.


You will reside in a place where you know that what I want, wants me and what I seek, seeks me.




Goal Design made SiMPLE



I am not the centre of the Universe

What follows is inspired by Paul Coelho's words...




There is a challenge before you to change how you see the world.

When your perception changes from limitations to a perception of abundance you figure out that you are not the centre of the Universe, that you are a part of its rhythm.

When you pay attention to what is going on, it all starts to make sense.

Be conscious of living in the moment, soak up some natural beauty and treasure everything, see it as a gift.

What if these words taunt you right now as there are feelings of sadness or grief or confusion or poverty. You could be scorning the Universe for the situation you are now in and can barely keep it sane.  How can you treasure everything and see it as a gift?  When your every thing is falling around you.

If sadness surrounds you and all you can see is sadness and all you are offered is sadness.  What do you do?

Start with this...

Breathe in the attitude of acceptance and accept that this time will pass. It is a part of our life and know that it will run its course. When you continue to resist, it will persist.

This is the challenge you are called to take up.

Attach yourself to the belief that when you want something the whole universe will conspire to let you have it. This is your space and you are a part of its rhythm, its essence.

Take every moment you can to nurture this belief and be alert to the wonders that happen each day.
It is the small wins, the everyday thank you for who you are in this moment that will build your belief that you are an integral part of the rhythm of the Universe.










Love your story


It is always a glorious wonder when the intention that you have set develops and firms and turns into part of your story.  

You really do need to look back to see your story and how it unfolded, appreciate how far you have come. Give it the recognition and the confirmation that what you mapped out and the intentions that you set have come together.

You remember that day, so well when you set your target and believed that the intended actions you designed will lead you to what you desire.
You believed them to be true when you set your target but wait you do go through some tough times and here you are on the other side of tough , so sweet, when you have faced the fear and the challenges and are able to pull out the belief skills and strategies to come out and go, yeah I did okay!

So, when it is right in front of you, you are living with what you desired, it is great time for a celebration jig.....and away you go again, ready to set more and keep on strengthening what is possible.

How did I get here? Well, here is what I have in my basic life aids kit for strengthening what is possible.

1. Stock up on love habits


Some of our habits we just have and don't know where they came from but without much effort they have become a part of our everyday unconscious living.  Pull apart your day and fit in some habits that will make a difference for the better.  Start small but remain consistent until it is just the way it is for you.

Lean on gratitude as it is the attitude that creates a love habit and settles into being a part of your core.

2. Self love and personal strengths


Talk to yourself with love affirmations.  Be very aware when criticism and comparing come to your mind, as this is your cue to repeat your special love affirmations. Breathe them in and let the words settle in the cells of your body.  Be prepared by writing your very long list of your strengths, quirks and abilities, know them, add to them.

I am a perfect imperfect human. My fears work as a safety warning and when I connect to what I fear, I can soothe the area that needs my attention.  It does not have a hold on who I am or what I do. I am not happy all the time but I am resilient.  We all have many parts that make us complete....the light and dark, anger and love, sad and content and so much more.

Know yourself and allow self love to strengthen your resolve to remain focused on solutions.

3. Expand your understanding

Intellectual, emotional and spiritual growth is the essence of every desire you create. I would not be who I am without the great authors and teachers who have shown me better ways. The encouragers, the enablers, the patient, kind people who are devoted to bringing information and knowledge to life for me.  When I look back over even the last 5 years it is the books I have read, the people I meet, the places I visited that have expanded my understanding and challenged my assumptions and helped me create my intentions and path to goals.

Learning is a basic life tool that is to be encouraged and nurtured.  Don't take it for granted.




Are Vision Boards Useful?




If I cut out pictures that I am attracted to and then paste them on a board, do all those things then come into my life?  Can creating a Vision Board be that simple, or is there more to it?  Is the true purpose of a Vision Board just stories and wishes and hype?  Is it just an afternoon of craft for the bored?Vision Boards looked like a lot of fun but do they really really work?
 If they work, and yes I have a healthy scepticism here, I want to know why it works and is it right for me.  

Some of my questions were answered when I moved house recently and cleared out the clutter and  I found two old scrapbooks where I had cut and paste many pictures of things I liked and would love to have in my life.  They have been at the back of a cupboard so it was a lot of laughs to see what I chose about 10 years ago.
  
This is the strange part and it really made me sit up and pay attention. ..perhaps Vision Boards do work.  Most of the images I chose I now have in my life, not as the exact image but a very close replica, the places I wanted to see, I have been to, the type of house I wanted, I am now living in.
If that is how Vision Boards work it is amazing, yet a little hit & miss and if left as pictures on paper it can just end up as a forgotten wish list.  No harm in having an hour or two of fun doing craft. 

Yet,  if some came to happen then there has to be more to creating and sustaining a Vision Board.
It is totally accepted now through scientific testing and personal knowing that our thoughts become things and what we focus on we will attract into our lives.  
T​​he action of visualisation is now common practice, you may already do it, we certainly know it is a practice widely used by athletes to enhance their training and "seeing" how their actions lead to their goals.

 It is not a crutch to rest upon and go, well that is done I visualised how it will happen and it is so....visualisation is an inspiration tool to adjust your thoughts and focus your attention and belief.  You don't just do it once either, your daily practise is visualising what you want to see, how you want to act until it is so.

The act of visualisation helps you focus on what you value and what you want to see in your life.  

We are comfortable knowing that visualisation works and can put us in a place of confidence to step out and make it happen.  
We are in control of our own thoughts and when you have created your very own unique Vision Board, it is you who determines whether this is fantasy and pretty pictures collected as a wish list or there is conviction that you have put out there what you value in your life.  
The Vision Board with all the images you feel you want in your life is a tangible tool to aid your visualisation.  
When you look at the images you have collected do they make you feel excited, certain and inspired to action?   When left just as a pretty picture you may be disappointed with the result.  Visions Boards are a great kickstart, you still  prepare your goals, you still are open to learning and ready for challenges and changes.  You are still in control of your destiny.
An athlete just doesn't visualise, they still do the workouts, still compete and keep setting the goals to achieve their best.                      
  "...Action with vision is making a positive difference" Joel Barke
The reason you have a Vision Board is to help you formulate what you value most, it is a time for you to collate and organise how you see your life and to remind you of the conviction you have to make it happen.  

To get the most from a Vision Board ...start with intention, focus on your  purpose, see it as part of your preparation and use a process to create your Vision Board.  So there is more to it than simple cut and paste and when I stick to a process I know that as an inspiration tool they work.  
Vision Boards are useful and now  I LOVE Vision Boards.